From the article: Teaching Children How to Write Thank You Notes
We're all so very busy these days. But does that excuse us from remembering the manners taught by our mothers? More and more often it appears that people don't believe written thank you notes are important. What else can explain their negligence in sending them? But some readers feel very strongly that they are important, and are very upset when they don't receive one for their gift. What do you think? Are they an old-fashioned formality that's no longer necessary? Or should manners never change? Share your Opinion
- I think they are important-I took the time to pick it out - the least they could do is respond-even if they don't like it. It is common courtesy - which seems to be lacking these days!
- —Guest Gwen Smith
I don't care
- I do not care to receive a Thank You note. I give a gift because I want to, not because I expect a thank you note in return. Most thank you notes are generic and say the same thing: "Thank you for the so-and-so." This doesn't mean anything to me, especially if the receiver already told me this in person; so why write it down and mail to me when you are saying the same thing? The only Thank You note I would enjoy receiving is if my gift made a profound impact on the person, like it was an answer to prayer or something, instead of just simply saying "Thank you for the (blank)."
- —Guest Kimberly
Thank you note.
- In the past three months I have given the following gifts: baby gift, 2 bridal shower gifts, wedding gift, 2 high school completion gifts. college graduate gift and a birthday gift. To date, I have received one thank you and that has been by email. I was taught to acknowledge gifts and show my appreciation by writing thank you notes. There is no excuse for not doing so.
- —Guest Patricia Ozols
- I believe in thank you notes. I always send them. They have spent their time and money on me. So the least I can do is thank them. Have a grateful heart!
- —Guest Linda Baden
- I am very hurt when I send money & a card & don't get any acknowlegement at all, not even a text or email. I feel un appreciated and taken for granted. Old Fashioned that way, it's called common courtesy. :(
- —Guest Peggy
I don't care at all.
- I don't care at all if I get a thank you note. I would just throw it away anyway. They are always boring and generic and a waste of paper. I didn't give a gift so that I could receive something back.
- —Guest MKitty
Thank you notes are a must....
- I cannot understand why anyone would think it's not proper to send a hand written thank you note. It has nothing to do with being old fashioned. It's got everything to do with proper upbringing, etiquette and down right common courtsey. If someone does a kindness for you or gives you a gift of any kind, it is the right thing to do by sending a hand written note through the mail. This new generation has been given some misinformation, by some form of media, books, etc. that is just not accurate. There is no acceptable reason for an email thank you ever! It doesn't matter what social circle you are a part of, good manners should follow through no matter what the factors are. It galls me when I read the "new up and coming generations" find it old fashioned to hand write a thank you card. Really??? It's not a generational thing at all. It's just good manners which many young people don't possess any longer. It's shameful.
- —Guest Carol Ann Zmuda
- Many of my students have responded to the thank you notes that I have given and pass on this courtesy to others who they report as surprised and appreciative of the kindness. It makes everyone smile and get along better.
- —Guest Mrs. E
To give is better than to receive
- When I give someone a gift, it is because I want to give them a gift, not because I am expecting anything in return. Anyone who gives with the expectation of a return, even just a thank-you note, just for the return's sake is not giving with the right attitude (it is different, though, I would imagine, if it's your children whom you have always taught to send thank-you notes and they don't). That being said, I always appreciate when someone sends me a thank-you note, and I always make sure to send them, too when it's appropriate. So I guess what I'm trying to say is that it's all in the attitude. No thank-you for a heartfelt gift is better than a grudging, if polite, note to a stingy giver.
- —Guest Rhonda
- You give not expecting to receive, so you shouldn't expect a thank you card. It is more work for already busy moms and they end in the trash killing millions of trees. If you want to use an email service that will work, but I still think if you gave the gift in person there is no need for it.
- —Guest Annie
Thanking for attending the event
- Dear Sirs, This is to thank you for attending XYZ Top-3 get-together event on 27th May 2011 which is part of XYZ policy to maintain a continuous business relationship with its investors and I hope to share with you many similar events in the future. HFZA's To Management and its staff appreciated your attendance at said event. Yours sincere MM Y. For : Director General
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- Anytime that someone spends the time, effort, and money to buy a gift for someone else, a thank you note is definitely common courtesy.
- —Guest Joan
- I love receiving thank you notes for gifts and efforts I make to do kind, thoughtful things for my kids. Most of them respond with notes, but I have one daughter who NEVER has written a thank you note, even though I taught all my children the importance of acknowledging the gifts they received from others. I'm tempted to quit putting in the effort and expense. OR I could just give up saying thanks for anything I receive from her. What do others think??
I do care
- I do care most that I seem to receive no thank you at all, anymore, for things given - especially mailed gifts. I would love to receive a written thank you note, but, more importantly I would just love to hear that the gifts I have given were received. Even a text message would be appreciated at this point.
- —Guest Al
- Sometimes I think people emphasize "rules of etiquette" over sincere relationships. I have several relatives who are diligent to do "the right thing" with regard to birthday gifts and thank you notes etc. They, however, do not extend themselves beyond this in a sincere way. Other relatives forget birthdays and thank you's but are sure to give you a call just because they thought of me or knew I might be going through a hard time. While both types of courtesy CAN show care and thoughtfulness, most people tend to be better at one expression or another. People who tend to be spontaneous in their expressions of kindness tend to be undervalued by the "rule keepers" when, in fact, their expression may be more heartfelt. So, my experiences with friends and family lead me to say no I do not care if I get a "Thank you note." I would much rather have a sincere card, phone call or e-mail "just because" someone thought of me. After all we should send gifts out of sincere love anyway.
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