From the article: What Does RSVP Mean When You See it on an Invitation?
An R.S.V.P. means that the host would like to know whether you'll be able to attend his party. Current experience seems to show that that many people no longer feel they need to respond to an invitation, especially if they aren't going to attend the party. Do you think the need to R.S.V.P. is no longer a social requirement? How has the response been to your invitations? Share your Experiences
Here's a suggestion
- Instead of RSVP simply ask, Let me know if you can make "it""?
- —Guest jamesearl
- Its very simple: No response to RSVP means your not coming. A non response is a response. Is it rude maybe depending on the circumstances. Would you send a RSVP to someone you had a casual acquantaince with and expect a response. RSVP means you're requesting a response not demanding one.
- —Guest lancelot
- When I receive an invite, the first thing I do is check the calendar and then respond immediately. There is nothing more rude than not replying to an invite and causing more work for your host/hostess when they need to chase down guests they have invited that cannot be courteous enough to reply.
- —Guest CB
- It is so irratating when guests don't rsvp. It's simple. You receive the invitation 1. Do I want to go, yes or no 2.Do I have other plans? yes or no? send the response back! Real simple! what really frustrates me is when I send an evite and you see the person "has viewed the invitation" but they did not rsvp! I'm going to stop requesting an request rsvp, I'll just plan for the amount of people I invite.
- Anybody who has ever attended one of my kids birthday parties knows there is always pizza involved. I either have way too much or not enough, so I and my family skimp ourselves so the guests can be satisfied. NOBODY ever RSVPs to my children's birthday parties. i think the parents use my number at the bottom when they are ready for their child to be sent home. No common courtesy anymore! Shame on society and their upbringing, and disrespecting a single mom who offers to feed all the neighborhood children...ugh!
- —Guest Megan B
- 28people replied to rsvp that they were attending my daughter's reception and didn't show.
- —Guest Irritated
- Get over it! Don't throw a party if you can't afford to plan for a few unexpected guests.
- —Guest Stephani
Family is not exempt from courtesy
- I am planning a holiday dinner. Two weeks ago I invited three family membersk none of whom has replied either way. I was in the uncomfortable position of e-mailing each of them with a deadline and explaining to them just why I needed to know by a certain date. They are not uneducated. They are not ignorant. They are merely shopping for a better invitation and I resent it. I will not invite them again and I feel that their rudeness has long-reaching effects on not only my relationship with them but also on my children's relationship with them. Their loss - my regret. Family is not to be taken for granted.
- —Guest Anne
It's stressful enough without all this
- I'm probably late to the party with this but I'm marrying in March and I'm finding that no-one is responding. I'm not well (nasty spinal arthritis) and getting the whole thing organised is solely upon me as my fiancé is working his socks off at work. I work too, and do the lions share of the household tasks. We've invited his family, his uni friends, some uni colleagues and a couple of my friends adding to a total of 120. I'm paying for my people plus a lot of extras and my salary isn't great - now my issue is this, it's a sit down meal and it will be circa £75 per head, do I just assume people will attend and then find empty seats costing me £75 each or do I find that one guest will bring three of his friends or additional children thereby racking up £300. It isn't a buffet, so we really don't have leeway and that's why we need to know numbers and why we have rsvp. English isn't my first language but I figured that if you don't respond to a wedding invite that is pretty classless.
- —Guest Ka'El
It's all about you
- Put yourself in the host place. Your RSVP is meant to help (1) provide a seat for YOU (2) budget for food/drinks for YOU to enjoy and best of all (3) it says I am so happy you choose ME to be at a party honoring you. Thoughtfulness goes both ways.
- —Guest G W H
People are clueless
- My daughter's birthday party is in 4 days. I have not gotten any response from half of the people we invited. Here's the best one though, I just got an email response (I put my email address and phone number hoping they will respond somehow). The email said, "This is my son's rsvp, I hope it's not too late". That KILLS me!!! I so desperately wanted to respond and say "RSVP" is not a response - yes or no is! All I can do now is assume they mean he is coming to the party. I think next year I'll put the definition of RSVP on the invitations - maybe I'll educate someone...
- —Guest Jenna
- It is so annoying when you ask for a response and do not recieve one and then that person shows up or at the last minute calls and wants to come and bring extra people. At my last gathering we had over a 100 people and people called on the day before or the day of and stated that they wanted to come. My daughter turned down several people who thought because we usually have plenty of food left over that it would be ok to just show up. Hopefully at my next gathering these people will respond by the date given or we will be turning people away.
- I'm a single father raising my son. I have always included RSVP on my son's birthday invitations and have only had at best, half of the invitations give a reply. It has only been thoose that are attending who reply. I think the vast majority of the population do not know what RSVP really means! I'm just a High School graduate, yet my parents taught me the etiquette of responding to invitations. The majority of invitations that are sent out surrounding my son's birthday go to two parent households that are middles class. I'm saddened to say I feel modern technology has taken over and old fashioned manners are slowly fading. Look at spelling and texting. Thanks for reading Craig
- —Guest Craig
- Ha ha ha ha... Oh my, I just had the greatest idea... One hostess said she didn't give out the time of her party until people called to ask... What if on the day of the party, all RSVP-ers were called and told a completely different location... When the non-responders arrive at the event location, it is closed, locked up and dark... Anyone who posted on this website that it is okay not to respond, for WHATEVER reason, be it laziness, rudeness, ignorance, indecisiveness or forgetfulness, has NEVER hosted an event. They cost time, money and EMOTION.
Ways to encourage RSVPs
- Check out this interesting blog post called "BREAKING NEWS: RSVP does NOT mean “Refreshments Served Very Promptly” from a company called Zokos that encourages people to RSVP by setting a minimum and maximum number of guests. They also allow hosts to set a 'chip-in' amount to help cover the bill and prevent people from flaking out. Pretty cool! http://blog.yourzoko.com/2012/05/29/breaking-news-rsvp-does-not-mean-refreshments-served-very-promptly/
- —Guest PhillyFoody
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